“‘It’s like you’re a big plate of sushi, and everyone wants a piece of you.’”
— Ashling's friend describes her popularity and desirability.

Marian Keyes (2003)
Genre
Romance
Reading Time
448 min
Key Themes
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A Prada-wearing magazine editor exiled to Dublin, an anxious assistant editor, and a suburban mother with a wandering eye navigate career chaos and simmering desires, proving that even the most perfectly curated lives can boil over.
Lisa Edwards, a stylish and ambitious editor at a London fashion magazine, is surprised when her boss, Brett, informs her she's being 'promoted' to editor-in-chief of a new publication, *Colleen*, in Dublin. This move is a demotion and exile, shattering her glamorous life. Reluctantly, Lisa packs her designer wardrobe and moves to a drab Dublin apartment, feeling lost and out of place. She immediately clashes with her new boss, Jack Devine, the owner of Devine Media, who is unkempt, moody, and seems to resent her presence. Lisa sees Dublin as a professional wasteland and is determined to make *Colleen* a success, if only to prove her worth and return to London. She struggles to adapt to the more relaxed Irish work culture and the stark contrast to her previous life.
Ashling Kennedy, a diligent assistant editor at *Colleen*, is an anxious and self-deprecating woman in her late twenties. She lives with her parents in a comfortable but stifling suburban home and has a long, somewhat stagnant friendship with Clodagh Kelly. Ashling is aware of her single status and lack of a romantic life, constantly comparing herself to others. While she excels at her job and loves magazines, her personal life feels empty. She often obsesses over her weight, her perceived lack of attractiveness, and her inability to find a partner. Her quiet desperation contrasts with Lisa's outward cynicism, but both women share an underlying dissatisfaction. Ashling, though initially intimidated by Lisa's London glamour, eventually respects her work ethic.
Clodagh Kelly, Ashling's best friend, appears to have the ideal life: a beautiful home, a loving husband, Colm, and two young children, Finn and Aoife. However, beneath the surface, Clodagh is deeply unhappy and feels unappreciated. She is overwhelmed by the demands of motherhood and housework, feeling she has lost her identity. She often fantasizes about escaping her life and has a growing attraction to a mysterious man she occasionally sees, fueling her internal conflict. Her secret longing for excitement and a sense of self beyond her family life contrasts with Ashling's more open desire for a partner. Clodagh struggles with guilt over her feelings, believing she should be content, but the discontent continues to simmer.
Lisa's arrival at Devine Media creates immediate tension. Her demanding, London-centric approach clashes with the more relaxed Irish office culture. She views Ashling as overly cautious and lacking ambition, while Ashling finds Lisa intimidating and condescending. Lisa's frustration is made worse by Jack Devine's enigmatic and often dismissive behavior. Despite the initial friction, Lisa's professionalism and vision for *Colleen* gradually impress Ashling, who, in turn, is an invaluable resource for navigating the local media landscape. Their professional relationship, though difficult, slowly becomes more collaborative as they work towards launching *Colleen*. Lisa also starts to find unexpected comfort in Ashling's quiet reliability.
Encouraged by her desire for a boyfriend and some gentle prodding from Clodagh, Ashling decides to try dating. Her attempts are often awkward and lead to humorous misadventures, highlighting her insecurities and lack of experience. She goes on a disastrous date with a man named Gary, who is more interested in himself than her. Later, she has a brief, unfulfilling fling with a charming but unreliable man named Stephen. Each experience, while disappointing, makes Ashling more reflective about what she truly wants in a partner and helps her slowly build confidence, even if the outcomes are not what she hopes for. Her dating escapades also provide amusement and shared experience for her and Clodagh, and later, even Lisa.
Clodagh's discontent deepens as her fantasies about the mysterious 'frog' man she sees around town become more vivid and consume her thoughts. She feels increasingly suffocated by her domestic responsibilities and the predictability of her marriage to Colm. The contrast between her seemingly perfect life and her inner turmoil creates immense guilt and confusion. She starts to actively seek out opportunities to see the 'frog' man, whose name she learns is Fintan, creating a dangerous emotional proximity. This developing infatuation highlights her desperate need for excitement and to feel desired, something she perceives as missing from her life with Colm. She grapples with the moral implications of her feelings, knowing they could jeopardize everything she has.
Despite their initial animosity, a reluctant professional respect and an undeniable sexual tension begin to develop between Lisa and Jack Devine. Their witty banter and shared passion for *Colleen* start to break down Lisa's emotional walls. Jack's gruff exterior hides a perceptive and caring nature, which Lisa slowly recognizes. Their arguments often end in a charged atmosphere, hinting at deeper feelings. As they spend more time together, Lisa finds herself increasingly drawn to Jack's intelligence and unconventional charm, challenging her ideas of what she wants in a man and her career. This developing dynamic forces Lisa to confront her own vulnerabilities and her true desires beyond her London aspirations.
The launch of *Colleen* magazine is a success, a result of Lisa's vision and Ashling's hard work. However, amidst the professional triumph, the personal lives of the three women reach a boiling point. Clodagh's affair with Fintan intensifies, leading to a devastating confrontation with Colm. Ashling, having finally found a promising connection with a man named Brian, is confronted with her own insecurities and the realization that she needs to love herself before she can truly love another. Lisa, while celebrating *Colleen*'s success, must also confront her feelings for Jack and the true reasons behind her exile from London, which involve a past relationship with Brett that she had tried to bury. The success of the magazine brings their hidden struggles into sharp focus.
Clodagh's affair with Fintan is exposed when Colm finds evidence, leading to a furious and heartbreaking confrontation. Her domestic life shatters, and she is forced to leave her home and children. Overwhelmed by guilt, shame, and the realization of the damage she has caused, Clodagh experiences an emotional breakdown. She confides in Ashling, who, despite her shock and disappointment, offers support. This crisis forces Clodagh to confront the deep unhappiness and feelings of invisibility that led her to seek solace outside her marriage. It's a painful but necessary reckoning, forcing her to acknowledge her own needs and the consequences of her choices. The immediate aftermath leaves her feeling lost and uncertain about her future.
Ashling, after a series of disappointing dating experiences and witnessing Clodagh's turmoil, begins a journey of self-discovery. She connects with Brian, a kind and stable man, but realizes she needs to work on herself before fully committing to a relationship. She starts to challenge her negative self-image and learns to appreciate her own strengths, both professionally and personally. Her friendship with Lisa deepens, providing her with a different perspective on ambition and self-worth. Ashling's arc ends with newfound confidence and a realization that happiness comes from within, not from external validation or a romantic partner. She learns to stand up for herself and embrace her unique identity, becoming more comfortable in her own skin.
Lisa is offered the opportunity to return to London for a prestigious job, the very thing she thought she wanted. However, her feelings for Jack Devine have grown significantly, and she finds herself surprisingly content and fulfilled in Dublin, both professionally with *Colleen* and personally with Jack. She discovers the truth about her 'promotion' to Dublin – Brett had orchestrated it to get rid of her after their brief affair and her subsequent rejection of him. This revelation frees her from the illusion of her London life. Lisa is torn between her past ambitions and her present happiness. Ultimately, she realizes that true fulfillment isn't about the city or the status, but about genuine connection and a life where she feels valued and loved. She makes a decision about her future.
Clodagh embarks on a painful but necessary process of healing, seeking counseling and working towards understanding her own needs, eventually reconciling with Colm and her children, with a new understanding of their marriage. Ashling continues to grow in confidence, pursuing her career ambitions at *Colleen* and cautiously exploring her relationship with Brian, now from a place of self-acceptance. Lisa, having chosen to stay in Dublin, fully embraces her relationship with Jack and her role at *Colleen*. The three women, though their paths diverge, remain connected by their shared experiences. They have all faced their personal demons, made difficult choices, and emerged stronger, more self-aware individuals, ready to face new beginnings with a greater understanding of what truly matters.
The Protagonist
Lisa transforms from a career-driven, emotionally guarded cynic to a woman who finds unexpected love and fulfillment in Dublin, prioritizing genuine connection over superficial success.
The Protagonist
Ashling evolves from a self-conscious, anxious woman seeking external validation to a confident individual who embraces her own worth and finds happiness within herself.
The Protagonist
Clodagh's illusion of a perfect life shatters, forcing her to confront her deep unhappiness and rebuild her marriage and self-identity on more honest foundations.
The Supporting
Jack's initially antagonistic relationship with Lisa develops into a deep and loving partnership, revealing his softer, more vulnerable side.
The Supporting
Colm is forced to confront his complacency in his marriage, leading him to a deeper understanding of his wife's needs and a commitment to rebuilding their relationship.
The Supporting
Brian offers Ashling a healthy, supportive relationship, helping her to build confidence and understand what true partnership entails.
The Supporting
Fintan serves as a catalyst for Clodagh's marital crisis, forcing her to confront her unhappiness and the repercussions of her actions.
The Mentioned
Brett's manipulative actions drive Lisa's initial relocation, setting the stage for her character development in Dublin.
Each protagonist grapples with finding their true self beyond societal expectations or external labels. Lisa, initially defined by her career and designer lifestyle, learns to value genuine connection over status. Ashling, plagued by insecurities and a desire for a boyfriend, discovers self-acceptance and that happiness comes from within. Clodagh, feeling lost as a wife and mother, seeks to reclaim her individual identity. Their journeys highlight the universal struggle to define oneself authentically. For instance, Ashling's disastrous dates, like the one with Gary, force her to confront her self-perception, while Clodagh's affair with Fintan is a desperate attempt to feel seen and desired as an individual, not just a mother.
“Maybe happiness was an inside job. Maybe it was something you had to find within yourself.”
The novel explores the gap between outward appearances and inner turmoil, particularly through Clodagh's story. Her seemingly perfect suburban life hides deep unhappiness and a sense of invisibility. Lisa's glamorous London life is revealed to be built on professional manipulation and emotional emptiness. The characters learn that what appears ideal often conceals complex, messy realities. Clodagh's 'perfect' house, for example, becomes a symbol of her entrapment, and her desperate fantasies about Fintan starkly contrast with her picture-perfect family photos.
“She had everything she was supposed to want, so why did she feel like she was suffocating?”
Despite their different personalities and initial clashes, the developing friendships between Lisa, Ashling, and Clodagh provide support and understanding. Ashling and Clodagh's long-standing bond is tested but ultimately strengthened by honesty. Lisa, initially isolated, finds genuine connection with Ashling, offering a different perspective and a sense of belonging. These relationships show how women can uplift, challenge, and comfort each other through personal crises and triumphs, providing a network of emotional support. Ashling's unwavering support for Clodagh after her affair is revealed, despite her shock, is a prime example of this theme.
“There was a kind of unspoken agreement between them: they might drive each other mad, but they'd always be there.”
The novel challenges conventional notions of romance, showing that love can be found in unexpected people and circumstances. Lisa, who expects a glamorous, high-powered partner, falls for the gruff, unkempt Jack Devine in a city she initially dislikes. Ashling, after a string of disasters, finds a quiet, stable connection with Brian, a man who truly sees her. The narrative suggests that true connection often arises when characters let go of preconceived notions and open themselves to vulnerability. Lisa's initial antagonism with Jack gradually gives way to a deep, passionate connection, defying her own expectations.
“Love wasn't always a grand gesture. Sometimes it was just quiet understanding.”
Each character is forced to confront past decisions and underlying issues that have shaped their present unhappiness. Lisa must acknowledge the truth about her past relationship with Brett and the real reason for her Dublin move. Clodagh confronts the source of her marital dissatisfaction and the consequences of her affair. Ashling grapples with years of low self-esteem and the impact of her self-deprecating habits. This theme emphasizes the importance of facing one's history and internal struggles to achieve personal growth and move forward. Lisa's eventual confrontation with Brett's manipulation frees her from the hold of her past.
“You couldn't run from yourself forever. Eventually, everything simmered under the surface would boil over.”
The stark contrast between London and Dublin lifestyles and work ethics.
The culture clash between Lisa's high-pressure, image-conscious London world and the more relaxed, community-focused Dublin environment serves as a primary source of initial conflict and humor. It highlights Lisa's fish-out-of-water experience and forces her to re-evaluate her values. This device also allows for exploration of national stereotypes and ultimately shows how Lisa adapts and finds belonging in an unexpected place, demonstrating personal growth and the breaking down of prejudices. It's evident in her initial disdain for Dublin's fashion sense and slower pace, contrasting with her own Prada-wearing, fast-paced existence.
The characters' internal thoughts often contradict their outward presentations.
While not a single unreliable narrator, the extensive use of internal monologue for each protagonist reveals a significant disparity between their outward behavior/perceived lives and their true feelings and insecurities. Lisa's confident exterior hides vulnerability; Ashling's self-deprecating thoughts are constant; Clodagh's perfect life is a facade. This device allows the reader deep insight into their struggles, creating empathy and highlighting the theme of the illusion of perfection versus reality. It's crucial for understanding Clodagh's secret desires and Ashling's anxieties.
Three distinct but interconnected narratives exploring similar themes.
The novel employs three parallel storylines, one for each protagonist (Lisa, Ashling, Clodagh), which intersect and influence each other. While each woman faces unique challenges, their narratives collectively explore themes of identity, self-worth, and the search for happiness. This structure allows for a multifaceted examination of modern female experiences, showcasing different life stages and dilemmas while maintaining a cohesive thematic core. The shared experience of working at *Colleen* or being best friends creates natural points of intersection for their individual journeys.
Clodagh's symbolic term for her desire for a passionate, exciting escape.
Clodagh's recurring fantasy about kissing (or sleeping with) a 'frog' is a powerful metaphor for her yearning for passion, excitement, and a break from her mundane domestic life. The 'frog' represents the antithesis of her stable, predictable husband, Colm, and embodies her desire for something wild and transformative. This metaphor vividly illustrates her internal conflict and the depth of her dissatisfaction, even before she acts on her impulses. Fintan becomes the physical manifestation of this 'frog' in her life.
The creation of *Colleen* magazine as a focal point for change and growth.
The launch of *Colleen* magazine serves as a central catalyst for the plot. For Lisa, it's the reason for her exile and her professional redemption. For Ashling, it's her professional home and a place for growth under Lisa's mentorship. The challenges and successes of creating the magazine provide a shared professional backdrop against which the women's personal dramas unfold, fostering their relationships and pushing them to evolve. The magazine's success mirrors Lisa's personal growth, and its content often reflects the themes the characters are experiencing.
“‘It’s like you’re a big plate of sushi, and everyone wants a piece of you.’”
— Ashling's friend describes her popularity and desirability.
“‘Sometimes you just have to give in to the glamour of it all.’”
— Lisa is often drawn to superficial attractions despite her better judgment.
“‘Being in love is like being a child again. Everything is new and wonderful and terrifying.’”
— A reflection on the intense, overwhelming nature of new love.
“‘People always think you’re happy if you’re smiling, but sometimes a smile is just a shield.’”
— Ashling reflects on hiding her true feelings behind a cheerful facade.
“‘The thing about life is, it just keeps on happening, whether you’re ready or not.’”
— A character muses on the relentless onward march of life and its challenges.
“‘You can’t run away from yourself, no matter how far you go.’”
— Ashling realizes that moving to New York hasn't solved her internal conflicts.
“‘Some men are like buses. You wait ages for one, and then three come along at once.’”
— Olivia comments on the unpredictable nature of finding romantic partners.
“‘It’s amazing how much you can love someone, even when they’re driving you completely insane.’”
— A character's exasperated but loving sentiment towards a difficult partner.
“‘Sometimes the best thing you can do is just let go.’”
— A moment of realization about the necessity of releasing control or past hurts.
“‘Everyone thinks they know what’s best for you, but only you truly do.’”
— Ashling struggles with external pressures and advice while trying to make her own choices.
“‘The past isn’t really past, not until you make peace with it.’”
— A character reflects on unresolved issues from their history impacting the present.
“‘Friendship is the only thing that really matters, in the end.’”
— A character finds solace and strength in her female friendships amidst romantic turmoil.
“‘Life is messy and complicated, and that’s okay.’”
— An acceptance of life's imperfections and the chaos it often entails.
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