“It is not the death that is important, it is the way of dying.”
— Toloki's philosophical musings on the nature of existence and demise.

Zakes Mda (1995)
Genre
Historical Fiction
Reading Time
240 min
Key Themes
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In post-apartheid South Africa, a professional mourner in a tattered suit and top hat finds comfort for his own grief and the city's wounds when he reunites with a woman from his past amidst township funerals.
Toloki, dressed in a threadbare suit, cape, and battered top hat, works as a professional mourner in a large, unnamed South African city. He attends many funerals daily, comforting bereaved families, often victims of violence, crime, and poverty. He studies the deceased's background to tailor his performance, often inventing relationships to the departed to seem more credible. His work brings him into close contact with the community's pain, and he feels a sense of purpose in witnessing their suffering, despite the emotional toll. He lives a solitary life, observing the city's many deaths and remembrance rituals.
On Christmas Day, Toloki attends a young boy's funeral, a victim of township violence. Amidst the mourners, he recognizes Noria, a woman from his childhood village. Their reunion is hesitant but important, breaking Toloki's usual professional detachment. Noria also carries sorrow, having lost her own child, Vusi, years ago in tragic circumstances. Their shared past and present grief create an immediate, unspoken bond. The encounter changes Toloki, as his personal history begins to mix with his professional life, hinting at a deeper connection beyond his mourning performances.
Toloki and Noria begin to spend time together, and Noria slowly tells him about her past. She shares the devastating story of her son, Vusi, who burned alive in a shack fire during intense political violence and forced removals in their village. This tragedy left Noria deeply traumatized and brought her to the city, where she has lived in poverty and with a deep sense of loss. She carries the guilt of not saving Vusi, and her grief is a constant presence. Toloki listens with empathy, recognizing a familiar depth of sorrow that matches the many funerals he attends.
As Toloki and Noria continue to talk, they realize their lives are more connected than they first thought. They both come from the same rural village, which faced brutal government crackdowns and forced removals during apartheid. Toloki also experienced the destruction of his home and the loss of his community, though his personal losses show up differently. Their shared memories of a pastoral past, now scarred by violence and displacement, create a strong connection between them. This mutual understanding lets them confront their individual traumas in a new way, finding comfort in their shared experience of historical oppression and personal grief.
Toloki, seeing Noria's ongoing suffering, encourages her to express her pain, not just as raw emotion but as a story. He believes that by telling her story, by giving voice to Vusi's life and death, she can begin to heal. He stresses the importance of remembering and recounting, turning personal tragedy into a shared human experience. Noria initially struggles to revisit the painful details, but Toloki's gentle persistence and his understanding of grief as a form of storytelling gradually convince her. This act of narration becomes an important step in her journey towards acceptance and reconciliation with her past.
As Toloki and Noria spend more time together, their relationship deepens beyond shared sorrow. They find comfort in each other's presence, creating a small haven of understanding amidst the city's chaos. They begin to imagine a future together, one where their shared past does not define their entire existence. Toloki continues his work as a professional mourner, but Noria's presence adds a new dimension to his life, easing his solitude. Their bond is not about forgetting the past but about finding a way to live with it, to create new memories and possibilities, suggesting a fragile hope for rebuilding lives shattered by systemic violence and personal loss.
Throughout Toloki and Noria's evolving relationship, the novel constantly shows the pervasive violence and 'ways of dying' that affect the city. The narrative mixes their personal story with descriptions of other funerals Toloki attends – victims of street crime, factional violence, poverty-related illnesses. These short scenes highlight the systemic nature of suffering and death in post-apartheid South Africa, where hope for a new beginning is often overshadowed by ongoing turmoil. The city itself becomes a character, a place of both despair and resilience, where death is a constant companion and mourning a daily ritual for many.
Toloki's method of professional mourning involves creating detailed, often imagined, backstories for the deceased. He researches their lives, but also fills in gaps with his own narratives, inventing relationships and shared experiences to make his eulogies more personal and impactful. This imaginative process is not just a performance; it is a way for him to connect with the humanity of the departed and to offer a deeper sense of remembrance to the grieving families. It blurs the lines between reality and fiction, suggesting that the stories we tell about the dead are as important as the facts of their lives in the healing and memorialization process. His imagination also helps him cope with the sheer volume of grief he encounters.
With Toloki's support, Noria eventually finds the strength to fully tell Vusi's story. By giving voice to her trauma, she begins to process the immense grief and guilt she has carried for so long. The act of storytelling, both to Toloki and to others, turns her silent suffering into a shared narrative, allowing her to release some of her emotional burden. While the pain of Vusi's loss will always remain, Noria finds some peace, moving from paralyzing grief to a state where she can acknowledge her past without being consumed by it. Her healing shows the power of human connection and narrative.
By the novel's end, Toloki and Noria have a deep and meaningful connection. Their relationship, formed in shared grief and a common past, offers them a path towards a future. They begin to dream of a life together, perhaps even building a home, a symbol of stability and hope in a turbulent world. Their connection suggests that even in a society plagued by endless 'ways of dying,' there is always the possibility for 'ways of living' – of finding love, companionship, and a sense of purpose. Their imagined future, while still fragile, represents a strong act of defiance against pervasive despair, affirming the resilience of the human spirit.
The Protagonist
Toloki begins as a detached professional mourner but evolves through his connection with Noria, learning to confront his own past and embrace a future beyond professional grief.
The Protagonist/Love Interest
Noria transforms from a woman consumed by silent grief to one who can articulate her pain, find solace in connection, and imagine a hopeful future.
The Mentioned/Symbolic
Vusi's memory serves as a catalyst for Noria's journey of grief and healing, rather than having an arc himself.
The Setting/Antagonist (symbolic)
The city remains a constant, oppressive force, reflecting the ongoing societal struggles, but also occasionally offering pockets of resilience and hope.
The Supporting/Collective
The mourners collectively represent the ongoing cycle of grief and the human capacity for resilience, rather than individual arcs.
The Mentioned/Symbolic
They represent a lost past that the protagonists must reconcile with, rather than having an arc themselves.
The novel explores the many forms of grief, both individual and collective, and how people cope with loss. Toloki's job as a 'professional mourner' highlights the societal need for ritual and communal expression of sorrow, especially in a context of widespread violence. Noria's silent, debilitating grief over Vusi's death contrasts with Toloki's performative mourning, but both ultimately seek real ways to process their pain. The 'ways of dying' are endless, and so are the 'ways of mourning,' suggesting that healing is a deeply personal and often communal journey.
“Death was a way of life, and life was a way of dying. But it was the ways of dying that were the most interesting.”
A central theme is the power of narrative to process trauma and achieve healing. Toloki encourages Noria to tell Vusi's story, believing that giving voice to her pain can help her release it. His own practice of inventing elaborate backstories for the deceased also shows that the stories we tell about the dead, even if partly fictional, are important for remembrance and comfort. By constructing and sharing narratives, characters can regain control over their pasts and find meaning in their suffering, turning personal tragedy into a shared human experience.
“Tell me a story, Noria. Tell me about Vusi. Give him life through your words.”
The novel is set in post-apartheid South Africa, showing how the legacy of political violence, forced removals, and systemic injustice continues to affect daily life. The constant stream of funerals Toloki attends – victims of crime, factionalism, and poverty – is a direct result of this turbulent history. Noria's personal tragedy, Vusi's death, is directly linked to state violence. The 'ways of dying' are not just individual misfortunes but reflections of a society still dealing with deep historical trauma and ongoing social unrest.
“Every coffin contained a story, a history of struggle, of a life cut short by the ways of this new land.”
Memory plays an important role in shaping identity and influencing the present. Both Toloki and Noria carry the burden of their pasts, especially their shared memories of their destroyed village and the violence they endured. Toloki's elaborate memory-making for the deceased, both factual and imagined, highlights how memory is actively constructed and vital for maintaining a connection to the departed. For Noria, confronting and expressing her memories of Vusi is essential for her healing. The novel suggests that by engaging with memory, individuals can understand who they are and move forward, even amidst deep loss.
“The past was always present, a shadow that stretched long and dark over the new day.”
Despite the themes of death, grief, and historical trauma, the novel also subtly emphasizes human resilience and the possibility of hope. Toloki and Noria, both deeply scarred individuals, find connection and the potential for a new life together. Their relationship, built on shared understanding and empathy, offers a contrast to the city's despair. The act of mourning itself, while painful, is also an act of defiance against oblivion, a testament to the human desire to remember and to find meaning. Their imagined future represents a fragile but powerful assertion of life amidst the 'ways of dying.'
“Perhaps, after all, there were ways of living too, even in a city so full of death.”
A unique occupation that allows the protagonist to observe and reflect on death in society.
Toloki's role as a 'professional mourner' is a central plot device. It provides him with a unique vantage point to observe the diverse 'ways of dying' in the city and the collective grief of the community. This profession allows the author to introduce numerous vignettes of death and suffering, illustrating the pervasive violence and poverty of the setting. It also serves as a metaphor for bearing witness to societal pain and the human need for communal mourning. The performative aspect of his role also allows for exploration of authenticity versus artifice in expressing emotion.
Subtle blending of the mundane with the fantastical, particularly in Toloki's imaginative processes.
While not overtly fantastical, the novel incorporates elements of magical realism, particularly through Toloki's imaginative processes. His ability to conjure elaborate, almost real, backstories for the deceased blurs the line between reality and invention. This device allows for a deeper exploration of memory, storytelling, and the subjective experience of grief. It suggests that the emotional truth of a story can be as powerful, if not more so, than factual accuracy in the process of healing and remembrance. It also subtly elevates the everyday suffering to a more mythic, universal level.
The setting is deliberately left unnamed, making it a universal representation of post-apartheid South Africa.
The decision to leave the sprawling South African city unnamed is a significant plot device. It allows the setting to function as a universal symbol for any urban center grappling with the legacies of colonialism, apartheid, and rapid social change. By not naming it, the author emphasizes the systemic nature of the 'ways of dying' – the crime, poverty, and violence – suggesting these issues are not unique to one place but are pervasive challenges in many developing nations. This anonymity invites readers to connect the story to broader social and historical contexts.
The intertwined narratives of Toloki and Noria, reflecting shared historical trauma and individual healing.
The novel uses the device of parallel journeys, bringing together Toloki and Noria, two individuals from the same past who are both profoundly marked by loss. Their individual struggles with grief and trauma run alongside each other, eventually converging into a shared path towards healing. This device allows the author to explore both the personal and collective dimensions of suffering in post-apartheid South Africa. Their intertwined stories highlight how individual fates are often shaped by larger historical forces, and how shared experience can be a powerful catalyst for empathy and recovery.
“It is not the death that is important, it is the way of dying.”
— Toloki's philosophical musings on the nature of existence and demise.
“The earth is rich with the blood of our ancestors. It is a sacred place.”
— Toloki reflecting on the land and the history of his people.
“My job is to cry. I am a professional mourner.”
— Toloki explaining his unusual profession to a new acquaintance.
“We are all dying, my friend. Some of us just do it more slowly than others.”
— A cynical observation from one of the characters about the human condition.
“Hope is a dangerous thing. It can keep you alive, but it can also kill you.”
— Toloki contemplating the dual nature of hope in difficult times.
“The city is a monster that eats its own children.”
— A description of the harsh realities of urban life and poverty.
“Even in death, there is beauty. A different kind of beauty, perhaps, but beauty nonetheless.”
— Toloki finding an aesthetic quality in the rituals and aftermath of death.
“Memory is a tricky thing. It can betray you, or it can save you.”
— Toloki grappling with his past and the reliability of his recollections.
“We wear our sorrows like badges of honour.”
— A reflection on the way people carry and display their grief and suffering.
“The greatest tragedy is not to die, but to live without purpose.”
— A character's profound statement on the meaning of life.
“Laughter is a weapon against despair.”
— Despite the grim circumstances, characters often find moments of humor and resilience.
“The stories we tell about ourselves are the only things that truly belong to us.”
— Toloki recognizing the power of narrative and self-creation.
“Every tear shed is a drop of the ocean of sorrow that surrounds us.”
— A poignant metaphor for the collective grief and suffering experienced by the community.
“Life is a performance, and we are all actors on its stage.”
— Toloki's theatrical view of life, perhaps influenced by his profession.
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