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Amber Brown Is Not a Crayon

Paula Danziger (1993)

Genre

Children's

Reading Time

90 min

Key Themes

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When her best friend Justin announces he's moving away, Amber Brown must navigate the difficult feelings of friendship, change, and the fear of being left behind before their special bond breaks apart.

Synopsis

Amber Brown and Justin Daniels are best friends in third grade, sharing everything from inside jokes to sitting together in class. Their world changes when Justin's dad gets a new job, meaning Justin has to move to Alabama. Amber is sad and angry, feeling let down by Justin's move. This causes arguments and misunderstandings as they both deal with being separated. They try different ways to keep their friendship, like exchanging gifts and finding a special memory. Ultimately, they must find a way to say goodbye and accept that their friendship will change but doesn't have to end, as they deal with the hard feelings of parting and the idea of a long-distance friendship.
Reading time
90 min
Difficulty
Easy
Pacing
Moderate
Mood
Heartwarming, Relatable, A Little Sad, Hopeful
✓ Read this if...
You're a young reader (or reading to one) dealing with the feelings of a friend moving away, or you enjoy heartwarming and relatable stories about childhood friendships.
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You prefer complex plots or stories for older audiences with more mature themes.

Plot Summary

Amber's Best Friend

Amber Brown, a third-grader, introduces her best friend, Justin Daniels. They have been together since birth, living next door, sharing secrets, and playing constantly. They have their own inside jokes and never tease each other with their last names. Amber loves their friendship, which feels perfect, and says they always support each other, whether with homework or school issues. Their bond is so strong that Amber cannot imagine life without Justin, highlighting their shared past and daily routines.

The Bad News

One afternoon, while playing at Amber's house, Justin shares big news: his family is moving to Alabama. Amber is shocked and thinks he is joking. When Justin confirms it is true, explaining his dad got a new job, Amber feels her world fall apart. She feels angry, betrayed, and very sad. The news ruins their fun, and Amber becomes quiet, unable to think about Justin, her constant friend, no longer being next door or in her daily life. The announcement starts a hard time for their friendship.

Anger and Blame

After the first shock, Amber's sadness turns to anger. She blames Justin for moving, even though his parents decided it. She cannot understand why he cannot just refuse to go. Her frustration shows in arguments and a coldness toward Justin. She refuses to talk about the move and avoids him, hoping that by ignoring it, the problem will disappear. This emotional struggle makes their remaining time together tense, as Amber's hurt stops her from being herself. Her parents try to help her, but Amber remains upset and unwilling to listen.

The Fight

The tension between Amber and Justin ends in a big fight over a shared item—a special eraser they both claim. This argument shows their deeper worries and frustrations about Justin leaving. They exchange harsh words, hurt each other's feelings, and both feel misunderstood and let down. The fight leaves them both feeling bad and makes Amber's anger and Justin's sadness worse, making their friendship seem broken. The eraser becomes a sign of their breaking bond, and neither wants to give in, making the conflict worse.

Coping Mechanisms

Amber's parents, seeing her sadness, try different ways to help her deal with Justin's move. They suggest she write letters to him, talk about her feelings, or plan a going-away party. However, Amber is in denial and refuses all their ideas. She does not want to talk about it, plan for it, or accept that it is happening. Her parents are patient but firm, reminding her that ignoring the situation will not make it go away. Amber's resistance comes from her deep fear of change and loss, making her withdraw more into her sadness.

The Gift Exchange

As Justin's moving day gets closer, he gives Amber a thoughtful going-away gift: a small, carved wooden animal, reminding her of a private joke they share. This surprises Amber and touches her deeply, making her realize that despite their recent fights, Justin still cares about their friendship. The gift makes Amber think about giving Justin something equally meaningful, something that will help him remember her. This moment is a turning point, as Amber begins to move from anger and denial toward acceptance and a wish to keep their bond.

Finding a Memory

Determined to give Justin a memorable going-away gift, Amber searches her room for something special. She wants to give him something that truly shows their friendship and will make him think of her. She considers different items, from a favorite book to a drawing, but nothing feels right. She wants a gift that is not just an object, but a part of their shared past, a memory. Her struggle shows her deep emotional care for their friendship and her wish to make sure Justin does not forget her, even from far away.

The Hair Gift

After much thought, Amber comes up with a unique and personal gift: a lock of her own hair. She carefully cuts a small piece of her distinctive amber-colored hair and puts it in a small box. This gift is very symbolic, showing a part of herself that Justin can keep, a physical reminder of their special friendship. It is a gesture that goes beyond things, showing their shared past and the irreplaceable nature of their bond. This unusual gift shows Amber's creative and heartfelt way of expressing her feelings.

Saying Goodbye

On Justin's moving day, Amber nervously approaches him with her gift. They exchange presents, and Amber explains why her hair is important. Justin, in turn, assures her he will keep it safe. Despite the sadness, a feeling of peace settles between them. They acknowledge their friendship and the difficulty of separating, but also that their bond will last. The goodbye is tearful but warm, as they promise to write and stay in touch. They hug, a final embrace before Justin gets into the car, driving away to Alabama, leaving Amber with sadness and hope.

Life Without Justin

After Justin leaves, Amber feels very empty. Her house is quieter, and school feels different without him. She misses their daily talks, their jokes, and his presence. However, she also starts to find ways to cope. She writes him letters, talks about him with her parents, and begins to notice other kids in her class more. While the pain of his absence remains, Amber slowly starts to get used to her new life, understanding that even though Justin is far away, their friendship can still exist, just in a different way.

The First Letter

A few weeks after Justin leaves, Amber gets her first letter from him. The envelope, addressed in his familiar writing, brings excitement and relief. Justin writes about his new school, his new house, and how much he misses her. He mentions the lock of hair and how much it means to him. Reading his words, Amber feels sure that their friendship is still alive. The letter connects them across the miles, proving that their bond is strong enough for the distance, and it fills Amber with new hope and happiness.

Principal Figures

Amber Brown

The Protagonist

Amber learns to navigate the complexities of loss and change, moving from denial and anger to acceptance and finding new ways to maintain a long-distance friendship.

Justin Daniels

The Supporting

Justin experiences the difficulty of leaving his best friend, but his actions show his commitment to maintaining their bond despite the distance.

Amber's Mom

The Supporting

She consistently supports Amber, helping her navigate difficult emotions and adapt to change.

Amber's Dad

The Supporting

He consistently supports Amber, helping her navigate difficult emotions and adapt to change.

Brenda

The Mentioned

Remains a static background character, serving to illustrate Amber and Justin's bond.

Themes & Insights

Friendship and Loyalty

The main theme is the deep friendship between Amber and Justin. Their bond is shown as special and strong, built on shared history, inside jokes, and helping each other. The story explores how strong this bond is when challenged, showing how true friends stay together even through hard times and distance. Amber's first anger comes from her deep friendship and fear of losing this connection, while Justin's gift shows his similar feelings. Their promises to write and their continued talks reinforce this theme.

Justin Daniels is my best friend. He is almost nine. I am eight. We have known each other since we were babies. We live next door to each other. We are almost inseparable.

Amber Brown

Coping with Change and Loss

The book talks about how to deal with big changes and losing a close relationship. Amber's journey from denial and anger to finally accepting and adapting shows the steps of grief. Her struggle to deal with Justin's move, her outbursts, and her efforts to find a meaningful going-away gift all show the emotional upset that comes with loss. The story shows that while change is painful, it is possible to find new ways to keep connections and get used to new situations, as seen when Amber starts getting letters and adjusting to life without Justin physically present.

I didn’t want to talk about it. If I didn’t talk about it, maybe it wouldn’t happen.

Amber Brown

Communication and Misunderstanding

Communication is important, especially how Amber and Justin first struggle to talk about their feelings about the move. Amber's anger stops her from talking about her sadness well, leading to misunderstandings and fights, like the one over the eraser. Justin's first news is sudden, and both children struggle to say how scared and sad they are. However, as the story goes on, they learn to show their affection and commitment to friendship through actions (like gifts) and later through letters, showing how important clear and honest communication is for keeping relationships.

I was mad at him. How could he move away and leave me? It wasn’t fair.

Amber Brown

The Power of Memories and Symbols

Memories and symbolic actions help keep Amber and Justin's friendship alive. Amber's search for the perfect going-away gift is because she wants to give Justin a physical reminder of their past and her lasting presence. Her choice of a lock of her hair is very symbolic, representing a part of herself and their special bond. Justin's carved animal also stands for their inside jokes and shared memories. These objects become strong links, allowing them to feel connected even when far apart, showing how memories and symbols can bridge distance.

I wanted to give him something that would make him remember me forever.

Amber Brown

Plot Devices & Literary Techniques

Foreshadowing (Implied)

Subtle hints of impending change or conflict through character behavior.

While not overt, the initial descriptions of Amber and Justin's inseparable bond and Amber's deep reliance on him subtly foreshadow the intensity of her reaction to his move. The idyllic portrayal of their friendship sets up the emotional stakes, making the eventual news of Justin's departure more impactful. The reader understands early on that any threat to this bond will be devastating for Amber, implicitly preparing them for her emotional turmoil.

Symbolism (The Eraser and Hair)

Objects representing deeper emotional states or the nature of relationships.

The shared eraser that Amber and Justin fight over symbolizes their crumbling friendship and the struggle for ownership over their shared past during a time of conflict. Later, Amber's gift of a lock of her hair is a powerful symbol of her unique identity and her desire to give Justin an irreplaceable piece of herself, signifying the enduring and personal nature of their bond even across distance. These objects are not just props but carry significant emotional weight.

First-Person Narration

The story is told from Amber's perspective, providing direct access to her thoughts and feelings.

The use of first-person narration allows readers to deeply empathize with Amber's emotional journey. By experiencing the world through her eyes, readers understand her profound sadness, anger, and eventual acceptance directly. This perspective makes her reactions, even her irrational ones, feel authentic and relatable for a young audience, enhancing the emotional impact of Justin's move and Amber's struggle to cope.

Epistolary Elements

The use of letters to advance the plot and demonstrate character development.

The exchange of letters between Amber and Justin, particularly Justin's first letter to Amber, serves as a crucial plot device. It provides resolution and reassurance, proving that their friendship can endure despite physical distance. The letters also allow for continued character interaction and development even after Justin has moved, reinforcing the themes of communication and enduring friendship. This device offers a tangible representation of their ongoing connection.

Critical analysis

Notable Quotes

Amber Brown is not a crayon, but she is brown. She has brown hair and brown eyes. She has a brown dog named Stanley.

Opening lines, introducing Amber and her name.

Sometimes when you get mad, you want to throw things. But you can't throw a person. So you throw other things.

Amber's internal monologue about managing anger.

My best friend, Justin, is moving. He is moving to Alabama. That is very far away.

Amber's main conflict begins as she learns about Justin's move.

I wish I could live in a world where no one ever moved. Or at least where my best friend never moved.

Amber expresses her sadness and wishful thinking about Justin leaving.

I made a list of all the things I like about Justin. It was a very long list.

Amber tries to process her feelings by listing Justin's qualities.

It's hard to be brave when your best friend is moving away.

Amber reflects on the difficulty of facing a significant change.

Sometimes I think grown-ups don't understand how important best friends are.

Amber feels misunderstood by adults regarding her friendship with Justin.

We made a secret handshake. It was our special handshake. No one else knew it.

Amber and Justin reinforce their bond with a personal ritual.

I hate good-byes. They make my stomach feel like it has butterflies that want to fly out.

Amber describes her physical reaction to the impending farewell.

Maybe if I don't say goodbye, he won't really leave.

Amber considers avoiding the final goodbye as a way to cope.

My mom says things change. But I don't want things to change.

Amber struggles with the concept of change, especially when it's negative.

Even though Justin is moving, we will still be best friends. We promised.

Amber holds onto the hope and promise of enduring friendship.

I looked in the mirror. I still looked like Amber Brown. Even without Justin right next door.

Amber's reflection after Justin has moved, indicating self-resilience.

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The central conflict revolves around Amber Brown's best friend, Justin Daniels, moving away to Alabama. This impending separation causes significant emotional distress for Amber and leads to friction and arguments between the two friends as they struggle to cope with the change.

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